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This morning I woke up and my body felt off. Granted, my period should be here any day now, but I began thinking about what can possibly be wrong. My boyfriend asked me, “What triggered this sadness?” and I immediately said that I felt like a failure.

Mind you, I felt amazing yesterday. But today I decided to catch up on a few YouTubers that I haven’t watched in a while. I usually don’t consume much of the perfectionist influencers because it triggers my mind to think I failed in life because I’m not living abroad and pushing a Porsche.

Why is materialism more appealing than love?

Although I’m happy for these girlies, I can’t help but to feel unappreciative of the life I’ve created for myself. Somedays, the amazing community, my successful pet care business, my amazing partner, my stable home, and being child-free doesn’t feel like enough in the moment.

Truthfully, $100k would be a great addition to my life right about now, but in the meantime I sometimes get distracted along the journey of life because it’s human to allow your mind to wander.

Learning that there’s no true destination, we’re just here to achieve goals, but it’s never ending when you have a purpose to continuously achieve.

It’s easier to forget the amazing things that have happened in our lives when we’re watching people live very lavish lives while you’re trying to figure out if you should buy store brand pads or Kotex.

Don’t get me wrong, I never want to downplay anyone’s blessings because everyone deserves a life of luxury. But I don’t think it’s conducive to consume so much luxury porn for 30 to 45 minutes.

The maximalist TikTokers don’t even cross my feed because I built my feed brick by brick. My mind can only consume a few seconds of in-depth views of luxury before I crash out personally. I want to be inspired by my dreams, my goals, and people with similar humble beginnings. But one thing I did observe from each successful influencer is that they always use their gifts to benefit them and to get where they want to be and that’s something we all need to tap into often.

What are your gifts and are you utilizing them to your advantage?

When you come from less (money, resources, love, community) and you see people who had that, it’s going to trigger you. Until you achieve more and learn how to manage and preserve whatever your more is, you have to utilize your gifts as a tool towards your success.

Comparison keeps you in a cycle of sadness while perspective allows you to assess the source of pain and find a solution quickly. You have to create a habit of perspective instead of abandoning your blessings because you were given them to help you through each season of life.

Life is simply about figuring out what you’re going to do about it. In every situation you’re put in, it’s your job to choose change or choose to repeat the loop of emotions over and over again.

I’m actively building a community and it takes WORK. Some from my past and some newbies that I met along the way through pet care, on social media, and through my partner.

It’s easier to be trash and cancel plans, and just allow life events to happen without showing up for others but as someone that doesn’t have a family, my community has been an amazing asset because it’s something I am creating from scratch not by example.

Taking the initiative and asking people for help and being of help to them in return is something I’ve always wanted to experience. I always try to lead my interactions with wisdom and softness because that allows for people to come around to better management of their thoughts.

I truly enjoy nurturing others emotionally and practically because I think safe spaces are where people take heed, not in environments that broke you the first time.

I want to continue to hold space for women like myself that are seeking emotional stability, liberation, and love from within and within our communities because that’s the whole point.

Even I fixate on things I wish I had, but the things I have are irreplaceable.

I have the confidence to not suffer on purpose.

I have love internally and externally because I’m a light in everyone’s life until my purpose is no longer appreciated.

I have discernment to know when something is wrong and something is right for me.

I have time to heal myself through the triggers and experiences that come my way.

These are all priceless blessings that I’ve accumulated through growth, through pain, and through joy.

Sometimes you can get lost in your emotions. Spiraling in your thoughts through comparison, self-doubt, and insecurities instead of acknowledging how dope you truly are.

Addressing the real issue will bring you to your solutions quicker and it works out to be cheaper when you get around to it.

It takes a lot of trial and error, sometimes years of it, to realize you’re holding yourself back because you fear what your life would be without the people or crutches that keep you in a cycle of comparison.

Spend time alone in your own energy and ask yourself what do I need right now.

Right now, I need to be focused on going back to school and finishing this damn degree, clearing space in my phone because Apple keeps screaming at me, and oiling my scalp daily.

These are some of the simple things I forget that are MAJOR in my journeys. Every time you abandon yourself, the world shows you that nobody else will do the nuanced things that are MAJOR within your growth but YOU.

Although there are major things happening in our lives, it’s okay to focus on the ones that we claim as minor because sometimes it’s actually something you should prioritize.

What are you currently abandoning?

I’m human, and I feel very deeply. As someone that feels very deeply, people that struggle with perspectives and tapping into their higher self are very attracted to me.

I’m very candid about being human yet teachable and that’s my lore I guess. But I’m a resource that is needed in the world that’s constantly finding new ways to disconnect women from their purpose.

As a woman, I take pride in varying emotions because it’s your God-given right to express yourself.

So instead of feeling shame in areas where I’m not 100% dedicated to my higher purpose every single day, I embrace it.

We all get distracted by the glamorization of what people show us, but we ignore our own reality seeking a distraction in spaces that aren’t in alignment with where you’re going in this lifetime.

Always remember you’re human, it’s okay to feel. But bring your feelings to a safe space next time around.

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