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I’m sure all the girlies are in sync but, I’ve been spending my evenings sipping on Stella Rosa out of my Dollar Tree glass while rewatching “Sex and the City.” As season 3 opens, Carrie begins pounding on her keyboard as she smokes a Newport indoors and asks a very valid question: “Are women waiting around to be saved?” She compares this way of thinking to fairytales, you know, the ones where the princess is forced to play Russian roulette with her love life. This notion has been the downfall of women since the beginning of time, and it is forced on young girls to one day have their Prince Charming.

Don’t get me wrong—it’s not impossible to find your person in a lifetime. But why are women so obsessed with the idea of bein saved? Marriage is not the end-all be-all of relationships. Once women learn that, they’ll put less emphasis on a man being their ultimate goal. Personal goals never stop unless you choose to stop pursuing them, and getting married doesn’t mean you disappear into a far, far away land. Life still goes on.

I’ve struggled with mental health issues for many years, undiagnosed to be exact, and my groom-to-be has been incredibly helpful through my healing journey. Although I’ve come a long way, I am still working on myself every day to be the best version of me. I’ve never felt like my partner would save me from my misery. While he makes me extremely happy, I also make myself happy. I have days when I’m sad, but I always keep in mind that it’s up to me to bring myself back to the surface. I never wanted to be saved; I wanted a partner who’s supportive and kind.

Since the very beginning of the “Sex and the City” series, Charlotte has always been the one who cared deeply about how she’s perceived by others, including men. She was always very selective with who she dated because she has always been the modest girl who was kinda sorta in her hoe phase and intended to get married and be a mom one day. If you’re a fan of the series, you know her dream eventually came true because she was intentional about the kind of life she wanted, down to her baby’s name! Some women are simply that strict with their time and energy, and it pays off to be intentional and disciplined.

Charlotte was in no way perfect; in fact, she was a bit uptight, but her mindset helped her create the life she loves!

Instead of waiting to be saved, women should focus on saving themselves. Prioritize your dreams, ambitions, and happiness. Relationships should complement your life, not complete it. Embrace your independence and recognize your worth. By doing so, you’ll attract a partner who values and respects you, not one who believes you need saving.

In the words of the iconic Cheetah Girls , “I don’t wanna be like Cinderella. Sitting in a dark, cold, dusty cellar (oh, no, ooh).Waiting for somebody to come and set me free”.In the end, being your own hero is far more empowering than waiting for someone else to play that role.